When an experienced wedding coordinator friend asks you to be a first-time coordinator for their big day, say yes. 10 to 22 wedding party sizes. 200 to 400 guests. 3 weddings later.
What is a specific question you were asked about?
“Where is the flower girl’s petals?”
What is something you remembered to do at the very last moment?
To add water in the vases for the couples’ watering of their bonsai unity ceremony. Guests were seating themselves at this moment.
What takes the most time?
Bride’s make up!!!
What is always a surprise?
When ring boys and flower girls get their time to shine down the aisle.
What is something unexpected you have had to do?
A bride asked me to rescue her father from their relatives because he was offered too many drinks.
What have you found is most important?
That the newlyweds eat!
Who runs to you the most?
The photographer, videographer and emcee.
Who do you run to the most?
The photographer, videographer, emcee and venue staff.
What is most satisfying?
Lifting weight off the shoulders of the newlyweds.
What is the most important reason to stay on schedule?
Vendors’ time contract.
Each wedding has a vibe of its own. I can’t attend weddings as a normal guest anymore. I wander behind the scenes. Why are they starting late? Oh, nice, they are starting on time which means they are on schedule. How are they standing? Hmmm, who’s the coordinator? Did the couple get to eat? I have to give myself little reminders to enjoy.
Thoughts on COVID-19 wedding adjustments: Maybe it’s a good thing to take away all the extra that can distract of what a wedding ceremony is about. Maybe we’ve become accustomed to wedding culture and it’s time to think outside of the box. Maybe we’ve been idolizing a wedding day and this is His way to reveal our heart. To minimize in many aspects and bring the focal point to purpose.
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